If you find yourself alone against the world, to whom do you turn? What should you do when every obstacle gets thrown in your way by governments, anti-freedom busybodies, even your own friends and family? One young Alabama woman who calls herself ‘College Girl’ was caught in this situation recently. After she told her boyfriend that she was pregnant, he disappeared, leaving her alone with her part time fast food job and college courses. Luckily, she found help in Alabama Reproductive Rights Advocates (ARRA), to whom she penned this grateful note.

I’d never thought I would be in a situation like this. I would like to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart. Because I had no help nor support from any of my family or friends on my decision. Thanks everyone for the donation and the help means so much to me. I couldn’t say thank you all enough for what you all have done for me. The surgery went well, it hurt a lot during procedure but after it was no pain. Everyone that works there was nice and worked well to help me and the other women.

‘College Girl’ wanted a medication abortion, but her nearest Planned Parenthood clinic determined that she was past the nine week gestation limit for the simplest kind of procedure. The location was also booked solid for surgical procedures until March, so she would have to travel. Since she lives in southern Alabama, she considered a trip to the clinic in Pensacola, Florida, which has no 48-hour waiting period, but that location doesn’t accept money from the National Abortion Federation, a group which helps women in need to access reproductive care. She also didn’t have her own transportation or anyone to go with her, whereas forced-birth activists have turned the Pensacola clinic into a gantlet. The next-closest clinic was in Mississippi, but they were booked solid as well.

Her fourth choice was Montgomery. An ARRA volunteer drove College Girl up to the state capital, where she arrived 14 weeks pregnant at the home of another volunteer who hosted her while she was in town. Although she’d already had the state-mandated ‘counseling’ at her local Planned Parenthood clinic, she still needed to have a state-mandated ultrasound, and there was necessary lab work to be done. Her procedure was also more expensive than most because of a medical complication, but the volunteers raised every penny needed to take care of her.

Finally, College Girl arrived for her procedure on the 42nd anniversary of the Roe v Wade decision. Luckily, only two forced-birth obsessives were there that day to yell their shameful messages at her. But due to a shortage of open appointments for procedures — an intentional result of so-called TRAP laws that target abortion providers with medically-unnecessary and burdensome regulations — the clinic was completely packed. ‘Mary,’ the volunteer who accompanied her, tells me that “it was standing room only, every chair/couch was full and women were sitting in the floor. We got there at 6AM and did not leave until 7PM.”

On Friday morning, College Girl’s volunteer driver experienced a family emergency and was unable to come pick her up and get her home in time for her 9PM shift at work. This prompted another series of phone calls as volunteers coordinated her trip home, driving her halfway from Montgomery to meet another volunteer. They got her back to the restaurant in time for a busy Friday night.

“I’m so glad we were able to help her,” Mary tells me. “She’s so young and has her whole life ahead of her.” Indeed, thanks to the support and help of ARRA volunteers, College Girl has avoided the high dropout rate among women who give birth during their higher education — and helped ensure a better standard of living for her future children, which is a victory for all of us.

If you need help accessing your reproductive RIGHTS in Alabama, or know someone who does, do not hesitate to contact ARRA. Their website is here and their Facebook page is here. You can also find them on Twitter here.

  • AquaMadMan

    This is shameful, how in the world can you put another human being though this shit and call yourself a Christian. The right wing in this nation is destroying this nation, forcing their social views on the rest of us.

  • ThrashyTrends

    And on this day, College Girl learned valuable lessons about planning pregnancies, abstinence, and the responsibilities of safe sex as well as being responsible for the consequences.
    Oh, I think I read a different article…

    • Domino71

      No, on this day a forever activist was born. No one should have to go through this BS. Ever. Your social and religious morals only apply to you (and thankfully so). The idea (wrapped up in a little pink bow) that people won’t have sex while unmarried, birth control/condom failure (of course that would never happen in a perfect world) are just crap. Reality sucks and the world isn’t all butterflies and harp music. I also notice that the boyfriend ran… of course he holds no blame, he’s just being a man sowing his oats… right?

      • ThrashyTrends

        No, I forgot about the boyfriend in the article. But that’s part of planned pregnancy, as well… Finding someone and knowing they’re going to stay with you. That they want to have a child with you.
        The guy’s an asshole, there’s no doubt of that. Well, maybe she has learned one lesson from that guy…

        • And just think, her life hasn’t been ruined by learning that “lesson.” See how that works?

          • ThrashyTrends

            You do have a fair point. I apologize for how… harsh my original comment may have been about it. Still, with many guys not wanting to use condoms and girls just allowing it, there’s an issue there. Condoms may break, but if they’re not even present, then both the man and the woman involved should understand the consequences and both should be held responsible.

          • College Girl took responsibility. Problem was, she lacked support or resources to take on a system that has been designed to deny her access to the means for taking responsibility. Who did that? Who made ARRA necessary?

            There are people who live every day to make it as hard, harsh, and horrible as possible for College Girl to access her RIGHTS. What do you call such people? I call them a creepy hate group with a sick need to control the lives and bodies of other people.

            You’re free to disagree, of course, or say that I’m being harsh.

          • ThrashyTrends

            No, you may have enlightened me. Thank you for your view.

      • Indeed. I confidently predict GREAT things from College Girl.

    • JoAnnCu

      Don’t forget. Most of the southern states have adopted a policy that the ONLY sex education they receive in high school is promoting abstinence, with no mention of HOW to have safe sex or prevent pregnancies (because it might “encourage sex”. So teens are left with rumors and horror stories, and falsehoods about what sex can or can’t cause pregnancies. (Pulling out comes to mind). These states have MUCH higher rates of teen pregnancies, and teens graduate into college with NO IDEA of how to avoid it, unless their parents gave them FULL DISCLOSURE.

      And ANYONE who thinks most teens will AVOID sex isn’t paying attention, because the WHOLE CULTURE and advertising is based on sexuality, and targeted towards girls as young as pre-teens.